Should. Have to. Need to.
If I had a dollar for every time I hear "Should," "Have to," or "Need to" in one of my coaching sessions, it would pay for college for both my kids.
All you HAVE to do is grow old and die at the end of your life. That's one thing we can count on, so far, although with the technology and medical advances.... let's call it a 90% reality.
All the rest, is optional.
We don't HAVE to work because we HAVE to pay bills. We CHOOSE to work because we CHOOSE to pay bills and feed our families. We don't HAVE to do it. We could make other choices.
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We don't HAVE to lose 20 pounds, get fit, or take off the baby weight. We can choose it, or we can choose not to.
We "SHOULDN'T" do x, y, or z thing in our businesses because so-and-so said if we don't, we'll never make any money. But we can choose to try and see if we like that thing.
We don't NEED to do the latest parenting fad. We don't have to "play big or go home," make six figures, give away all our belongings and live like monks, or declutter.
We don't HAVE to clean the closets, set boundaries, or even get up in the morning.
We don't even HAVE to get rid of "have to," "need to," and "should" from our vocabularies.
But we COULD.
It's ALL a choice. Our behavior is a choice. We're more or less likely to do a behavior based on our learning histories, TRUE. But in the end, we are FREE, not programmed. We're free to play big, or play small. Free to make a million dollars or free to make ten thousand. We're free to parent permissively, helicoper-y, or somewhere in between. We're free to live on the grid, off the grid, free to draw the grid and then crumple it up.
The point here is that should, have to, and need to all limit our options. "Should," "Need," and "Have to" are the wires in the cage that keeps us from believing we can move forward, make better, or evolve. (Click to tweet!)
I "have to" stay in my job or my kids will suffer. I "need to" lose weight or my health will suffer. I "should" clean my house more often.
Clink, clank, clunk. Cage, built and locked. No possibilities, no movement, no way to see beyond the blinders.
This is your permission slip to let go of "should" and "have to" and "need to" just for the day... to try on "I could," "I want to," and "I choose to" and see what opens up for you.
The possibilities are endless.
This one's for my coaches who want to live the dream of maxing out your income and impact... of helping lots and lots and lots of people with their coaching skills... but who are overwhelmed by the idea of putting together a group coaching package to offer. I will do it for you! Learn more here... 2 spaces open for July 2016. Will not be offered again at this rate!